Ears or Eyes

Ears or Eyes

Are you a person who loves to experience life primarily from what you see OR what you hear? Your preference may give you important clues about how you learn best. Some people are visual learners. Others are auditory. You may like being hands-on. If you favor activities and touch, you may be a kinesthetic learner. The way young children eagerly grasp for objects demonstrates tactile learning. One of these styles is not better than the other. Still, it is important to identify your personal style. I’ve known people who are exceptionally bright, though they underperformed in school. Later they found that their actual difficulty was with the way they were being taught. It didn’t match their learning style.

Recognize which approach is natural for you. Then, stress that learning style to experience and enjoy life. You may respond well to a blend of more than one style. If you have an auditory bent, as I do, I have a free resource for you at the end of this posting.

Though my wife reads extensively, her preferred style of learning is tactile. She doesn’t absorb information well from print or sound alone. She wants to interact with new information. In church, for instance, she takes extensive notes during sermons, but not so she will have written records, rather she finds that writing helps her absorb ideas. Another way I see her kinesthetic orientation is that painting is her creative recreation. I’m different. I enjoy spoken words. I like interviews on the radio. I prefer hearing an audiobook to reading the same words in print. When you were in school, how did you learn best? Did you get more from reading assigned books, lectures, or projects? Which method communicates best with you? When you know which method of learning appeals most to you, you become more interested in gaining knowledge and skills as long as they are presented in the format you need.

The Christian missionary movement pays particular attention to learning styles. Missionaries need to know how to communicate cross-culturally in order to provide education, spiritual care, and other services. Estimates are that between 70 and 80% of the world’s people are oral preference learners. Granted, a large portion of the world’s people are young children and semi-literate adults who cannot read well. Just the same, even among educated adults, many prefer hearing information over getting it from print.

I have a vested interest in the subject of how people like to learn because I’m eager to communicate what I’ve discovered about how to thrive during the mature years of adulthood. I have written the book THRIVE in RETIREMENT. Many people have been effusive saying it was both very helpful and fun reading. The book is available both in PRINT and on KINDLE. For those who find activities to be an energizing way to embrace new thinking, the content is available as a six-session STUDY GROUP CURRICULUM or as a ONE-DAY WORKSHOP.

For anyone who likes hearing stimulating ideas, THRIVE is also available as an AUDIOBOOK. Because of the growing interest in this significant new stage of life, I’m giving frequent interviews. Here’s a free audio introduction to thriving as an older adult.

What do you expect as you age?

What do you expect as you age?

There are three dominant theories about what kind of person you are likely to become as you age. Will you shut down and fade away, stay active, or something in between?

The average American today will live 30 years longer than if they were around a century ago. That’s a big difference. Looking back to the earlier generations of your family, most people had only a few years after they stopped working before they passed away.

Your kinfolk years ago didn’t have to think about what to do with themselves in retirement, because few people had many retirement years to fill. Even less than a century ago, look at 1935, the year the Social Security program began. The average life expectancy then was only 61 years. Today, life expectancy is around 80, slightly less for men and slightly more for women. That number can be misunderstood, however. It doesn’t mean that when you turn 65, you probably have only 15 years, taking you to 80. In fact, you probably have more because the overall life expectancy includes everyone who dies at a relatively young age. So, if you make it to 65, you are actually likely to keep going longer than the overall average. A 65 year old can anticipate more than another 20 years.

What will your life be like during this later season? This merits serious thought since what you expect can have a strong influence on what you become. There are three primary theories about what happens with people as the age.

The study of aging is a relatively recent area of research. The first widely-recognized theory came from Elaine Cumming and William Earl Henry in their book Growing Old published in 1961. They espoused Disengagement Theory. The idea is that it is normal and acceptable for people to withdraw from society when they are old. As the authors put it, “aging is an inevitable, mutual withdrawal or disengagement, resulting in decreased interaction between the aging person and others in the social system he belongs to.” Is that your inevitable future? That theory has many detractors. It is not a popular view among sociologists these days. Are there alternative theories? Yes. There are two other leading concepts about aging.

Activity Theory asserts that staying active and engaged with life is the key to satisfaction in old age. This theory is just about the polar opposite from Disengagement Theory. Activity Theory proposes that the way to enjoy life is to keep developing new interests and relationships to replace those that diminish or go away over the years.

Continuity Theory holds that most of what you are lasts throughout your lifetime. If you had an outgoing personality at age 25, you’ll probably still be the life of the party when you are 75. You maintain your personality traits, tastes, and preferences throughout life.
As you might guess, there are many other factors that can shape your life as the years progress. In a general sense, however, the three theories help you see the options you have for the general thrust of your life. What do you expect? What path will you take? Your three basic options are:

  • disengage, withdraw from the rest of society as you age
  • be pretty much the person you’ve always been; have continuity
  • or stay active to the extent you are able, both intellectually and physically